Keeping the Love You Find

By Dr. Iris Fanning

"I love thee, I love but thee; with a love that shall not die; till the sun grows cold and the stars grow old." Shakespeare

"The course of true love never did run smooth." Shakespeare

BUILD THE FOUNDATION

I invite you to take a look at the other 3 articles I wrote about love. These articles are brief guides for a strong foundation for love that lasts. When you've done your work of clearing your past, bringing forth the God presence within you, being the person you want to be, defining what you value and attracting a partner who is aligned with what you want/need and who honors you...the "work" of a relationship is MUCH easier.

MAGIC KEY

There are many reasons good relationships continue to be really good. I would need to write a book to cover all aspects. Instead, let's keep it simple and give you one key that will help you enjoy and sustain your partnership. Are you ready? OK, memorize this thought.

People fall in love with you because of how they feel about themselves when they are with you.

When that person falls in love with you, they feel smarter, funnier, prettier, taller, thinner, more confident, more loving, walking on air, sexier, happier, healthier and like they can master anything. One of the simplest ways to create your great relationship is to check in and see if you feel like this in your partner's presence and if they feel like this in yours!

Here are a few easy thing you can do to encourage you and your beloved to feel wonderful in each others' presence .

Always say good morning to your partner.

Never leave one another without saying "I love you" and kissing each other.

Always tell your partner how beautiful, handsome or sexy they are.

Hold hands when you walk together.

Tell your partner they are the best!

Tell your partner they're brilliant.

Listen to your love.

Never go to bed mad.

Never say anything that will damage your love's opinion of themselves.

Often go the extra mile so your love doesn't have to work so hard.

FEEL THE LOVE

First, jot down how you feel about your partner currently and how you think they feel when they are with you. Then write 10 more things that you can do to make your partner feel special. Now, do several of these things a day. Do this without the expectation of getting 1 for 1 in return. Then notice how you feel and notice the reactions of your beloved. Write this down and notice any changes. Again, keep a notebook or computer page so you can see our growth during this year. Enjoy!

WHY LISTEN TO ME?

What makes me an expert in relationships? Of course I have the credentials (M.A. & B.S. in Psychology, Counseling & Guidance; Graduate of Coach University; Awards from American Association for Marriage & Family Therapy, Community Agencies & Albuquerque Public Schools; Over 20 Years experience in Coaching & Counseling).

Additionally, what makes me a credible expert is that Ken and I have been happily married for 22 years. We continue to enjoy one another, have fun, learn & grow in all kinds of ways.

Want confirmation? Our 20 year old son said to me this summer, "Mom, you may not always think I listen to you. When it comes to relationships & marriage I really listen to you. I've watched you and dad. I see how happy you guys are, how much you love each other, how close you are, how much you like spending time together and what fun you have. Of course I'm going to listen to you about relationships."

Copyright 2007, Iris Fanning. All Rights Reserved Worldwide. Reprint Rights: You may reprint this article as long as you leave all of the links active, do not edit the article in any way and give author name credit.

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Dr. Iris Fanning is a Nationally recognized Success Coach. Dr. Fanning is a graduate of Coach University, holds an Honorary Doctorate in Divinity, M.A. in Psychology, Counseling & Guidance and a B.S. in Psychology. Additionally Iris is the self published author and an in demand public speaker. Individual and group coaching can help you create the changes you desire. http://www.irisfanning.com Free weekly newsletter, click and sign up on the website now!